Its not the most wonderfull time of the year for all of us.
For many people, the holidays are full of joy and gatherings. But not everyone feels that way, and that’s okay. This time of year can be really hard for so many reasons: family struggles, loneliness, or missing loved ones who are no longer here. Sometimes, it’s even harder because you have to spend time with family members who are toxic and have to deal with constant micro aggressions or worse. Being around that kind of negativity can make the holidays feel really stressful instead of happy. If you’re feeling this way, here are some gentle tips to help you take things one small step at a time.
1. Prioritize your well-being
The holidays come with expectations, but none of those are worth your peace of mind. Let go of what doesn’t feel good for you. Don’t be afraid to break tradition if it doesn’t serve you. If certain gatherings are draining, it’s okay to skip them or set boundaries. It’s your holiday season, too.
2. Plan for what you need
Take a moment to ask yourself what would make this time feel bearable, or even joyful. Maybe it’s time to establish your own traditions, like having a winter walk at the beach, volunteering, or planning a cozy day at home with movies and hot chocolate. This way, you’re not just “getting through” the season but giving it a personal touch.
3. Find your community
If you’re feeling lonely, reach out. Many people are more welcoming than we think. Community dinners, local events, or even joining a friend’s family dinner can fill that social gap. Often, people don’t realize we’re alone until we speak up and you may find warmth and acceptance in unexpected places.
4. Practice self-care
From journaling to taking nature walks, self-care is essential, especially when emotions are high. Give yourself permission to take small, comforting actions that make you feel grounded. Remember, slow living means making room for what nourishes you, so let this season be a time to give yourself that space, too.
5. Know you’re not alone
If the holidays feel hard, know that you’re not the only one. Sometimes, we only see the highlight reels, but everyonestruggles in some way. Remind yourself that there’s no “perfect” holiday; we’re all just doing our best. There’s comfort in knowing that your feelings are valid and shared.
Final thought: it’s okay to go at your own pace
The holidays don’t have to look or feel like anyone else’s. Embrace what feels good and gently release the rest. After all, the best gift you can give yourself is permission to honor what you need.
